My guess... you let him feel like he won. Walk away. He'll drop it and move on. You'll never hear from him again.

He just wants to feel big and bad. Let him feel big and bad.

 

Just ask him if everything is good between you two because you have your own priorities. If he says no, see what you could do to either fix it or at least find out what's wrong.

 

I'd warn him that your not taking his threats as a joke, just so he knows your taking this very serious. Then make sure you have every text message/voicemail he ever sent you saved, backed up and stored elsewhere. Because if **** hits the fan, proof of all his threats will be your golden ticket.

I have a friend that was talking to this guy last year, he flipped since things didn't work out and now has been making threats, not keeping his word on leaving her alone/staying away and even made threats to me about not letting her hurt anyone else. We both saved everything and now have a court date for a permanent restraining order for her. Oh yeah, genius violated the temporary restraining order in less than 5 days of getting served Tons of idiots out there think they can say/do whatever they want and people will bend over and take it.

 

Yeah that's what I'm planning on doing. I just hope nothing bad happens to him and he associates it with me.

That ship has definitely sailed lol. There's no use trying talk to him right now. Doubt he would even pick up the phone. Just from the way he has been acting, I know he doesn't want any more association with me and I'm fine with that.

 

I'm just really hesitant to get anyone else involved because he is ultra paranoid about getting caught up with his "business." If he found out that I told the cops about him, regardless of what it was about, he would most definitely come after me or send someone after me. No doubt.

 

Yeah just keep your eyes open and stay alert, don't need to be all paranoid and freaking out but not blind to your surroundings. And save everything from him.

 

Previous roommate moved in and within about a month and a half I moved out. I couldn't take it as the dude was psycho. Calling me when I was out at friend's places to come home and make space in the freezer so he can put his stuff away. He then escalated to things like waiting up until about 2:00 - 3:00 AM and get in my face trying to get me to take a swing at him. Last straw was when he started trying to mess with my pets. I was not about to let that happen. I went to office and had them move me for safety purposes. Ultimately I probably should have moved out of the complex all together, but nah I liked the area.

They eventually allowed me to move, I packed up my stuff and moved out during the day when he wasn't at home. Within the week I was out. I tried to have him sign a document that would have allowed him to have full control over the place so that he could get someone else to move in. He refused to sign it. So I left a copy with the front office. I was no longer liable for the previous place as the office allowed me to move, but still was somewhat worried about it as the entire deposit was mine. It was like a $600 Deposit + $500 Pet Deposit. Him and I signed only a 6 month lease so it was not a very long term thing, but I just couldn't deal with coming home to more stress than I was having from work. When work is a place to relax that's not exactly a good sign.

By the end of the week I got something like 5-7 threatening texts. I was just going to be done with him, but when that happened I went to file for a restraining order. Had it served to him at his work (which probably pissed him off).

Well about 3 days after the previous lease would have been up I get a letter in the mail from the court house saying I was being sued for $3200 (essentially what I would have had to pay in rent had I stayed living with him for the remaining 4 months if the apartment was split 50%). I thought "No way, would I have to pay that", but was still nervous about it. I would have counter-sued, but apparently you have to allow for 10 Business Days (or something like that) in which for the defendant to prepare. I decided I did not want to see him multiple times if I could avoid it. Went to the court date and he wasn't there. So I sat off to one side and was hoping he wouldn't show up. Just before court sessions start he walks in. He sees me and sits off to the other side. I'm dressed to appear in court, he's dressed in jeans and a t-shirt. The judge advocate (not a full judge, but legally able to represented as a judge) proceeds to question everyone in the room to make sure they were present (if not he would have automatically ruled in favor of the person that did show up). If they both were there then would they like to continue with their hearing or go into mediation. He asked him first and he was all "Yeah, I'd be fine with going to mediation". I responded "No! I will not go in to mediation and I will present my case to you". I'm sure he wanted mediation as he figured he wasn't going to get the full amount, but he probably could have gotten half. I wasn't about to give him anything if I didn't have to. I brought in the full copy of the contract as well as the restraining order against him. Mind you the court house had us standing about arms length apart (restraining order is for 100 yards apart). We presented our cases and the judge advocate told us that we would find out the ruling in the mail. I went back and sat down, he started to walk out and then decided to sit down as well. After a little bit he finally got up and left. I waited about another 15-20 minutes or so to ensure that he wasn't waiting outside and then proceeded to leave.

Not too long later I found out from the office that out of the entire deposit on my previous apartment that he probably damaged all types of stuff and ultimately I was only going to be getting back about $142.00 out of the $1100 Total Deposit.

Then shortly after that I find out that the ruling came back in his favor. In the amount of $142.25. So out of the $3200 he wanted he was only getting $142.25 (not really sure why that amount, I'm guessing something like 1-2 Days worth of rent or something insignificant. The judge advocate probably saw how psycho he was and decided to find in his favor so he would feel like he won, but in such a small amount that it wasn't really going to affect me. I have a feeling that had I counter-sued I probably would not have had to pay anything, but to me the $142.00 was worth it to get him out of my life.

Later on found out that he moved out of the state and apparently the female former roommate I had before he moved in moved out with him so the could get married. They both claimed they would have nothing to do with each other when I was around, but obviously that wasn't the case.

All in all though, good riddance and I'm glad they are out of the local gene pool. They can go be crazy elsewhere.

Later on I found out from the maintenance guys that they thought the guy was crazy and probably on meth or something as apparently in his previous apartment he completely disassembled the toilet in one of the bathrooms (no idea why as if there was a problem maintenance could have come to fix it). He also damaged the front door by apparently throwing a baseball against it multiple times and had other damage in his place as well. Wish they had told me about all that stuff BEFORE he moved in. I should have seen the Red Flags, but I just was more concerned about getting a roommate into the place and didn't realize the dude had rage issues. Oh and he apparently had lost his license drunk driving and then would drive to his AA class. He would also keep all types of alcohol in our fridge so obviously the class didn't help.


*CLIFF NOTES
Former Roommate was psycho (probably on some type of drugs).
Moved out, got a restraining order against him.
He sued me and he won in court (only a minimal amount).
He's out of my life and Good Riddance to him!