Don't try too hard. I have a story to tell, unfortunately.

 

well do tell

and yes man relationships suck

thats why i have relations with girls

 

Errr forget it guys...I dont even care to celebrate VDay anymore...its a Hallmark holiday anyways ...so...whats the point

 

wow from into it to cynical in a day

bummer what happened with you and will?

 

Nothing happened...it just seems like its just too damn hard to do something nice for someone to show them that you love them. It seems like whatever it is ...its not enough...so it kind of just killed VDay for me

 

ummm ok so
no effort > any effort

 

you know it's the thought that counts the most, i'm sure he'll appreciates anything you do for him, whether it's a lil bit or a lot... at least that's how i would feel. it's better not to go over board now, cuz you'll just have to out do it next year then again and again, and you won't be able to do that every time... start off simple, and i'm sure it'll be more than enough for him... he's not gonna say "what this is it? where's the rest" just keep in mind, ok next year i'll do a lil more to show him how i feel.. and then maybe one year just go all out...

 

bah sounds like a cop out

 

Simplicity is definitely good.

Yesterday was another tiring day. Early morning workout, long hours of work and I finally get to go home at around 8PM 8:30PM (Work starts at 9AM ~ 9:30AM M~F). Tetsu and I had dinner together at home. She brought back the best hainan chicken from Savoy (@Alhambra; Best I've ever had in the states; prove me wrong later; take out dinner) at my request over the phone earlier in the evening while I was at work. We enjoyed it at home on our coffee table in front of the TV. After dinner, she brought out a Nike shoe box and handed it over me. Immediately, my mind froze and I didn't know what to do with the shoes. First of all, I'm a Nike AF1 and Dunk fanatic. I love my shoes and I love keeping them fresh. I would buy them and not wear them immediately. I might be a freak, but I love my Nike sneakers smelling fresh and unused. I pretty much treat them like my baseball and basketball cards when I was little. Anyhow, I opened it and it was the Nike Dunk Low Germany. I looked at it (more like an observation), loved it, took one of them out, sniffed it, placed it back in, closed it, kept them in the shoe box, placed it beside me and I thanked her with xoxoxo. Then in my mind, I was wondering whether it was for an early valentine or not, which lead me to think about the gift that I had in mind but not quite there physically yet. With those thoughts, my expression didn't seem so thankful and pleasant. It then gave her the wrong idea and lead her to think that I didn't like it. She then got sad and I lost my mind and didn't know what to do nor what to say. She thought that I didn't like them because I didn't bother to try them on and see if they fit or not. I assumed that she knew how I treat my shoes if I really really like them, but not this time. I told her that I noticed that it was size 13 and I knew that it will fit right. I realized that I got her mad and anything I say would no longer matter. We both got frustrated about the situation and went to do our own things. I went to wash the dishes and she went to do something else. I finally took it back to my room and tried on the pair of Dunk Low Germany. I walked over to her while she was on her laptop in the living room. I thanked her again as I showed it to her, but it was still too late. The story went on and she was still mad at me for not being thankful and appreciative and that if I don't want them, give them back to her. I then asked her why she gave them to me and she told me that it was just for a sign of appreciation. I told her that I thought it was for an early valentine and she said it was not for valentine and she expressed to me how she felt about valentine. I told her how I felt at the moment of receiving the gift, that I was shocked and not sure how to react and worried about not having something in return instantaneously. She told me not to question about the gift and just be thankful about it. Til this morning, she was still upset at me. We left for work at the same time as usual right before 7:30AM (I go workout every morning while she commutes further to work), I wore the new shoes she gave me to show her that I do like it and thankful for it, yet it didn't get the sadness out of her.


I think I have problems expressing feelings, letting out emotions. Maybe that's part of my communication problem. Definitely something that I need to work on. Anyhow, she loves flowers and I immediately order some for her right when I got to work. I got the florist (Ezai Flowers) to have them delivered today. Hopefully, it'll brighten her day up. At the meantime, I will pursue on getting a gift for her for valentine's day which was my original plan, regardless of how the thinks about valentine's day. I can use it to express my sign of appreciation to her.

This might not be the best story or maybe it leads you to think negatively of me, but I'm learning and I'm trying. Maybe I'm the robot.

Happy Friday.


:banana:

 

f an a sir

 

you wore them

they arent worth as much now

dude there is a guy in nor cal selling his collection

check it out over 50 pairs

 

Oh yeah, I also missed the part where she looked for the shoe everywhere because it's hard to find size 13 and ask many for opinion on it.

 

i think you should have said loook and showed her a website with a collection and an auction for them

and been like dang now im worried that the gift i got you is going to suck compared to this one

 

gifts out of the blue for no reason are the best gifts. no matter how small or large.

write her a card expressing how you felt. especially if you have trouble expressing yourself verbally, writing it out can get the message across clearer w/out interruptions.

it depends on the person, but a written note of how you feel can be more effective than flowers. just keep showing her that she's on your mind even when you guys aren't physically together and that you appreciate everything she does for you. if you don't do so already.

 

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