Dude, it'll be cool. Dan is right, just go for some runs, go swim... go beat up some foolios at Water Polo


-Gagan

 

Tim, man, whatever you do bro, don't live in a fantasy world. Take things as they are, and don't look back.

Use past experiences as advice to live in the future.

 

yeah I remember Brucelee used to tell me his girl problems on AIM. I guess he's all grown up now lol

 

yup this is the first girl i've ever really liked(read: loved). the worst part about it is that it just happened to work out that all my other friends weren't really around so we not only clicked like you wouldn't believe, but in the span of a few months we became best friends too. it's so much worse than any physical pain i've ever felt, i just don't know how to deal with it. it feels like an unbelievably overwhelming emptyness inside me combined with rage and disbelief and flat out pain. it even makes me nautious sometimes. thanks for all the advice guys, i appreciate it. the worst part is that i basically thought that i wouldn't be able to see her or talk to her ever again, but it literally felt she had died and a huge piece of me had also died. i just couldn't handle it. at heart and in general, she's just too good of a person for me to just totally cut out of my life. even if she decided that she wanted to try having a "relationship" with me at this point, i don't think i would even be able to. it seems like i will be able to deal with losing her as a "lover" but not as a friend. but then it seems like "why would i even want to be around the person that dealt me this crushing blow in the first place?" so i guess we're gonna try hanging out and if it doesn't make me feel better, then i'll just have to stop seeing her until i can heal myself.

 

Sounds like you're doing everything that you can. It really is just a process, as far as I can see. I had to break up with my girlfriend about three weeks ago because I just wasn't happy anymore (plus the fact that I'm 17--she's approaching 19--and didn't really want to be in that serious of a commitment that she expected from me). It was a bad situation because she claimed that it was mutual, but later told me she only said that and really did still want to be with me.

Ok, I had a point to explaining this when I started, but then had to get up and get the phone, and have now forgotten what that point was. I apologize. I think it had something to do with the fact that she was really sad, much more so than myself, and at first acted as if I had ruined her life and hated me for it. But now, she is slowly coming back to reality and being civil. It's hard, really hard.

 

Yeah, exactly man... you live and learn.

Trust me Tim, I was in worse shape than you, and I pulled through just fine. It took some time, but I made it, and it actually made me a better person.

 

2 words: strippers and lots o' lap dances...