also, we have been hitting some rocks in the road the last few months and i think a long distance relationship might not be the best option right now...
maybe if we were just friends while she goes to school we can come back together and be better prepared.. i dont know.. its really confusing all of it.

 

its a hard thing to decide. but you really need to weigh the pros and cons and decide whats best for YOU. if whats best for you is for her to go to her dream school and then work things out thats what you need to make clear to her. She might be angry but when she looks back on it in the future shell thank you for making her follow her dream.

sounds to me like youve already decided whats best. now you just have to convince her and yourself that youre making the right decision.

one thing ive learned is that being strong for yourself and following your own path is whats best for anyone. dont give up something in your heart for anyone else unless that person is worth risking ANYTHING for.....and the person worth risking anything for will still be there when youre done taking care of yourself.

 

yeah that makes a lot of sense.

i will be waiting for her when she is done with school. that is for sure. and i know she will be doing the same. i just think it best for us not to worry about it and do our thing and reconnect as far as being actual bf/gf goes.. but at the same time if i go over all this with her she needs to make the ultimate decision. because i will not force her to pick one or the other.. its up to her not me.

 

sounds like you care a lot about her! which is great tha means you guys have a strong relationship...and trust me even the strongest ones are tested HARD sometimes....so if she decides to move with you and not pursue her college i wish the both of you the best of luck im sure you both will find the right decision....just try and make it both peoples and not just one...because the other might feel a lil disdane down the road.

keep us posted and let us know how it goes.

 

^^^^ i have to agree with you on this one. kinda sucks, cuz i have nothing to add to it......

 

You guys are still really young. When I was your age the last thing I was thinking about was getting married. Too many women in the world, too many parties to go to, too many things to do that would otherwise be a pain in the *** to do if a full time girlfriend was in the picture. If it makes you feel any better, you guys can remain friends. Who knows, if it is indeed true love, you'll wind up together in the end. The plus side to that is you'll have a woman that's sewn her wild oats and won't leave you 5 years down the road because she feels she never had a chance to grow up and experience the world. What that really means is, experience the dating scene as a mature woman to find out exactly what she wants in a man. If you guys get back together a few years down the road, you'll have a relationship that will last for the rest of your lives. Statistically speaking, the odds will be much more in your favor. So don't kill yourselves trying to make it work this early in the game. Besides, if you leave and come to find out that she's hooked up with half your friends in your absence, then you know it was just not meant to be...lol...j/k.

 

yeah it is just hard as we get along very well. lately things have caused more arguements that in the past would not have. but overall we are best friends. and love each other very much. i just sometimes wonder if that thought is right.. experience life before you get too old and regret your earlier life.

 

From my perspective, that just shows that the "honeymoon" phase is done. As long as the arguments that you get into, don't have lasting harmful effects and can easily be forgiven, it can actually be healthy for a relationship.

+1 to what onemanarmy said and blacktraxgirl.



oh... ps... your gf is hot

 

okay Greg let me put it to you this way....

i dated my high school sweetheart for 7 years from 17 - 24. we lived together for 4 years. we broke up last year. very messy now, im just starting to break out of my shell and live the life i should have been living back then. that means NOW im drinking/partying with the boys/going out and ****. all because i had a full-time girlfriend in the stage of my life where i should be out there doing these things, not staying in on a friday night and watching movies with the lady. dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with it, its just i did it WAY too early.....

now im going on 26, and finally going out clubbing and ****, when i should have been doing this years ago.....

im not saying that what you want to do is wrong, all im saying is make sure its what you really want. and if it is, dont look back, and dont regret. trust me, i am....

 

I have no advice on your situation... tough choices... but I do have one bit of advice:

SD girls are INSANE. Good for a roll in the hay, bad for ANYthing else. SERIOUSLY, trust me.

 

ya our arguements can get heated then minutes later drop and we forget we ever argued.. we are good at that.

 

pics....

edit, I'd hit that tweece...

 

And if you roll across the border to Tijuana the mexican girls are even crazier.....hot and crazy...I miss that place.

 

my 2 cents:

looks like you have already decided to breakup and are looking for a excuse. If your GF wants to follow you and continue the study in the south she can do it.

now if you want to go alone then it is a different story just do it.

i had to make this same choice 8 years ago and do not repent it and i just did it.

Exactly same situation i got a new job GF in a different city wanted to move and leave the job and not work again blah blah..

so make a decision and stick to it.

Well if you both move together and then there is a breakup then so be it. Life is a game and you are players and **** happens in a game.

 

It's definately not a good idea to follow someone somewhere you dont' really want to go just to be with someone, especially if they're just a girlfriend as opossed to a wife or husband or life-partner or whatever (ha! politically correct! Awesome). Here's my story:

Dated my girl for about 4 years in Jersey and then she got a chance to go to South Dakota State on a huge Alumni scholarship from here dad (he went there too. Hence the "Alumni" scholarship). All her family lives down there that she doesn't get to see too much and she kinda wanted out of Jersey. She wanted to stay but I told her to follow her heart and do what she felt was best for her and not "us". She went and we ended up braking up about a year later 'cause she cheated and I just didn't trust her anymore. Fact is, long distance relationships are tough on both of you. If you make it work good for you but it takes a lot. Good luck to both of you.