Absolutely nothing; I can't change the past, so what's the point in sulking in it.

 

I regret shooting a man in Reno just to watch him die....





























wait, that was a song :P

 

Regret not going to suspension mods instead of power mods.

 

"The only thing I regret are the things I did not do"

 

back in the day I recall a story of sigma pi giving a girl a neck rub in a bathtub in a Vegas hotel. He didn't give her the D

 

HAHAHHAHA

 

-Brian

 

Agreed.


Always makes me laugh when I see people say they have no regrets. To me that's just a life that hasn't been lived yet. A life that's never had to make truly tough decisions. A life that hasn't had the chance to look back yet or appreciate cause and effect.

It's very easy to say... I have no regrets...



Fact is... regrets are healthy. It's what you do with the aftermath that matters. The way you look at it.

There are lots of decisions I wonder what would have happened if I made different once. But even those that I regret... in the end... I am who I am because of the situations I was in and the choices I made in those situations.

And much like you... they have led to a good life. Not necessary an easy one but a good one. I have an amazing woman that puts up with my isht most days. I have the best daughter I could have ever hoped for. I have a home. I have bull**** that takes up my time. I have a great group of friends. I have an even better group of friends that I call family.

Can't complain all that much.



Tell you one thing... I wish I had a damned degree. I might not be doing what I'm doing right now if I did so it's a 50/50 thing. But if I had a degree and I was doing what I'm doing I'd be able to ask for more money. That would be nice. LOL!

 

Ray, ZEN master LOL. 100% correct though.

There's plenty I regret, but how you deal with it is what determines who you are. You don't always have a choice in what happens to you, you just have to make the most of it.

 

Werd! I'd be making a lot more money with my degree. But it's ok too. Priorities have changed and frivolous things have been reduced. Life goes on.

 

I beg to differ. I can easily say it makes me laugh when people list out would/could/should have things and waste energy on living in the past...but I won't, because that's my personal opinion and to each his own.

Hindsight is always 20/20 and every person makes choices that are imperfect. IMHO Learning and moving on to greater things is what counts more. This might seem like semantics…but my state of mind will not allow me to say “Maaan, I regret crashing my WRX, I wish I still had it ‘cause it was such a sweeeeeat car.” Regretting the past accomplishes nothing because that happened for a reason and I simply got what was coming to me. Instead I say that I f*cked up and set a new goal to increase my driving skill and build better balanced cars as to avoid repeating the past.

And life haven't lived? That’s a crappy assumption, dude. I guess then having lived on multiple continents, graduating with a double bachelors at the top on my class, working my way to comfortable financial standing, visiting or worked in every state in this country, and supporting my parents 100% in their old edge (along many other things) do not count as "haven't lived yet" in your book.

Can’t we just agree that everyone has a different life philosophy that makes them sleep at night?

 

Buying the Forester, sight unseen. I've been fortunate that I've had the resources and knowledge to make the best of a bad situation, but DAMN. This car was a wreck when I got it and I paid $18k for it. Thats a tough pill to swallow, only to be stuck making such costly repairs to a four year old car.

 

Different cases for everyone for sure. I don't think Ray means YOU specifically. I don't think I'd entirely call mine "regrets" just mistakes or bad decisions. You're correct, you can't change the past, so we just need to take from those things that were bad decisions and learn from them. I don't dwell on those things that happened either, and have taught my that kids the best way use what happened in the past is by using it to make the right choices the next time they present themselves.

 

Agreed I know Ray didn't mean me specifically, but he included me by defualt with his statement and I felt strongly enough to rebuttle and use myself as an example.

As I said, may be it is just semantics, but I find "making a lot of mistake" and "making a lot of regrets" as completely different mentalities. Devil is in the details as it is the little things that kill you.

 

Sometimes people need regret in order to grow in the right direction. Think of regrets like wrenching; if you don't break something, how do you expect to learn from it? You can't let your cup be too full or be too sure of yourself and your decisions all the time. I believe it keeps a person humble and always learning to be open to a little doubt and a little regret now and then. Should one dwell on whats done and mull over and over how things could have been different? I wouldn't advise it. But remembering that you f***ed up that one time will certainly grant you the foresight not to do it again.