Well back in middle school there was this guy who we all skated with.He really good and he could have gone pro easy.He didnt really have a family he just had a bunch of friends who loved him so that was kind ahis family.The kid had an awesome life except for his family.Just with the last year he has been smoking meth everyday all day.He smokes more then he eats.I was driving down the street he lived on the other day and i saw he im outside.He looks horrible.If it were weed or something i wouldnt care but meth is some serious ****.What do you guys think i should do.Just let him be or try to help him. Iwould call the cops but theres so many warrants on the house they dont even give a **** about it...what do you guys think...thanks

-Aaron

 

If he is your friend, its not really a question. Its your responsibility to to help him.

 

true..other then the other day i havnt seen him in over a year no one else gives a **** about him but what should i do..thats some crazy mother ****ers in that house that would kill me for helping him

 

help him

 

i know but how..what should i do guys give me ideas plz

 

I'll tell you right now from EXTENSIVE history.... tread very very carefully with your friend.

Basically...it doesn't sound like you chill with him much anymore and i can kinda see why. But the sad thing is...that **** will take over your life often times whether you like it or not.

I'd recommend just trying to kick it with him like once a week. No booze. No drugs. Just take him out to grab something to eat or watch a flick. Get him away from his habits and the people around him that get him into that ****.

Show him there are people that care about him.

It's clear his family life has effected him and he's on a self destructive path...also very much experience here for me.

So that's what I recommend. Just kick back with him. get him to change his habits one day a week. Keep showing him you care. Eventually maybe he'll start caring about himself again and it'll be two/three days a week until he changes friends changes situations and breaks the habit.

It is INSANELY difficult to quit meth. He'll be an adict the rest of his life.
If you go in and start telling him he looks like hell and needs to quit that **** he'll blow you off and he'll be gone.

You ever want to chat about it let me know. This is some stuff I have experience with in some ways.

I used to live out in ptown...lots of drugs out there. Lots of messin around.

 

i dunno his phone number anymore and im not sure if its a good idea to go to his house..if a cop see's me walknig out it would be all bad..Dublin cops are *******s like that.maybe im just scared of druggies

 

Maybe take him skating somewhere. I'd be down to go too. I should be resurfacing my ramp next month so the sessions will be back in full swing for this summer.

 

damn this sounds so familar it hurts to even think about it

one thing ive learned is that you cannt help someone that dont want it or thinks they need it

i had a BEST friend (i take that title very seriously) that i grew up with, known him since i was 10 and he was 7. we lived 3 doors down and did everything together, his family was mine and mine was his. im talking everything! family vacations you name it.

that all changed sophmore year. see i had gotten a job and wasnt home much and he started hanging out with a different set of people. people that were known to sell weed and smoke it.

little by little we grew apart. partly over the fact that he was using weed and i couldnt understand why he needed to be cool and fall into the looser lifestyle these homos were known for...

i tryed to help but nothing i did or said ever help'd and i barried myself in my job because of it. i also had my close cousin fall to crack same outcome

loosing and seeing friends/family take the wrong road really suck bro. you feel so helpless and wish you knew what to do
edgar,

 

Do the right thing dude. Talk to him and see if you could help him.

 

everyone says help him but its not that easy... see to most people that are into drugs that is there fun there excitment there high...

normal stuff is just that + all they think about is the last high or there next and its hard to associate with that or them for that mater.

i know that made it hard to try and hang out and kick it with my old freind, all he talked about was how high he was yesterday or hed get a call telling him to come over cause there going to get high

edgar,

 

no joke.

Had a cousin in deep. DEEP. every drug you can name. He's pushing 40 now and clean. Doesn't even smoke or drink. nothing. Miracle if you would have seen him 10-15 years ago. it took about 10 years of trying to knock everything. He nearly killed me when he was strung out once. I when I say killed I mean literally. My dad sat there and watched him beat the living crap out of me for about 30 minutes. I was 13.

another cousin that's still into the crap. She was/is prostituting herself. Had a kid born strung out on speed and weed. her sister just took legal custudy of the child. He's a little behind but happy and healthy now. But my cousin is still into the crap. She got a full set of new teeth at 27 thanks to insane amounts of speed use.

at 10 my step dad tried to shoot me in the desert. Years later I found out he was a meth user..didn't know at the time. Couple other things related to this I won't get into.

Saying all this....
Guize...you're not alone. It's a sad thing that's happening all over the place.

The offer is out there. Pm me and I'll shoot you my cell number if you want it.

next time you see your old friend on the street just stop and talk to him. If you need to...find a local cop...one you see watching the place. Write down his car number. Call and leave a message with the officer assigned that car that day..... Tell him what you're doing and that you are not involved with any of the other isht...believe me when I say they'll appreciate it. Lots of strung out kids in dublin/pleasanton.

and yeah...for the most part...the cops out there are dicks.

 

my room mate is going through this with a very good friend of his right now. Been on speed for YEARS...talking very heavy user for a lot of that time. He's clean right now but he's bounced from clean to using many times over the past 3 years. Similar things to what you're talking about....I'll call him and see if he'd be down to post on this thread...I'll give him my information to log on.

 

^^^ this is some very good advice. do not take it lightly. personal experience taught me those things as well. drug addicts suffer not only from addiction. its a whole slew of new problems when theyve become hooked. alot is involved, most of which is depression from poor self image from taking drugs. its a downward spiral for most addicts, whether it be alcohol, w33d, or hardcore stuff like meth.

 

Very good advice from One Man Army. Keep in mind that some people want to get out and some don't. I had a family member who was a heroin addict. Kept it secret for about 6 months. When I found out, I couldn't believe it - the guy had never touched cigarettes or weed but just jumped to shooting up. When I told him I knew he had a problem, he ran away - for a day - then came back and asked for my help. I took him to a shrink and a doctor. There are some amazing drugs out there that can help people get off meth or heroin, and I'm not talking methodone. Many of the new drugs take away the sensation of getting high and there are very few withdrawl symptoms.

Drop by. Take him out for food. See if he wants to talk.