Dont take him out, he might see crap that will make him flip out at somebody. Wait a day, chill in the house, get him some food, movies, somethin. Wait til his family comes by and then they can help him with it too. I doubt going out is going to help, and to me there are more negative things that could happen than positive.

 

The best thing to do is wait, make sure he doesnt do anything irrational, and in due time he will come around and talk with you, or open up to everyone. Just needs time.

 

Thanks for the suggestions as I haven't really had to ever deal with something so direct before... Man, he's doing really, REALLY badly... Probably better then I'd be doing but thats not saying much. He wont touch anything to eat, is really nauseated, stopped crying and is really spaced out. I'm glad his mom and dad are there now, I think that helped him a lot since he doesn't feel as alone anymore... He's talking about moving out of state with his parents since this place just reminds him too much of her and I don't blame him, I wouldn't want to live in the same place anymore either... I don't think many of you guys would either.

But there's the update, I still feel really shaken up and have been paying extra attention to my wife... Things like this just make you appreciate what you have even more because it makes you realize how fragile life is and much you should appreciate it.

 

this.

 

Hey Daniel,

If he's nauseated and confused, it's due to the medication. It's part of the adverse effects of the medication. However, if it's too much for him to stand, he'll need to seek the advice of his physician.

 

You should really take it from. If was going to do something bad he would have done it. Just watch him. Be there when he opens up. Time is all that is needed. It is always best to know that someone is on other side of that door waiting for you. : ) And keep positive.

 

I can't imagine what I would do if that happened to me.. or what I would do in your position.

Here's what I think I would do in your shoes..

Try to find some of his old friends that are still around for more support even if he's not close with them anymore.

Try to make him see that as horrible as it is.. there is a future for him even without his wife. You probably shouldn't outright say that but you get the picture.. over time show him.

Even if he has his family there.. people still need friends to express their 'other' side. I know that I definitely act differently between my friends, family, and gf.

And most importantly.. take care of yourself. It's a huge burden for you to even think about getting him through this.. and remember that if worse comes to worse.. you were there for him and that says a lot about your character.

I wish everyone involved the best and RIP to his wife..

 

Going through Loss and Grief can be real difficult. You are going to feel lost yourself in terms of how to support him. Just do what you can and what you feel is right. There is no one right answer. I'd highly suggest a counselor. There are agency's that give grief counseling for those who lost a sig. other at a young age. This can possibly be highly helpful. Anyhoot.. Good luck

 

God be with him.

 

You are a good friend for even caring. Ativan is taken in tiny doses. It is very easy to overdose on it. It does however take the edge off of life without given the crazy disassociating feeling of other anti depressants. If he is taking the drugs and they are not in his system completely please advise him to NOT consume alcohol at least while the drug is entering his system. I feel for the guy.. If there's anything this community can do let us know.. I'm sure i speak for at least the majority of us when i say that.

 

First off i am so sorry to hear this.. my prayers and thoughts go out to everyone involved.. You are being a very good friend to stick by him in his time of need. I have been on those medications as well for a trauma i went through in my life. He is more likely getting sick feeling because of what he is going through. Death can rip right at you so bad you are sick and your mind is spacey. It takes time for the medication to actually work on the body. The best is to be there for him and eventually if hes not talking about it have him talk about it and grieve cus holding it all up inside ones self can really cause more issues in the end. Best of luck to you Daniel, you are being a very good friend.

 

Thanks guys, thanks a lot.. Im going to bed finally since I havent slept since yesterday night...


Good night and thanks all!

 

sleep well and get some much needed rest.