Just to rephrase, when I take out the HID kit, everything works perfectly fine. So I know it is a problem with the ddm tuning 35w HID kit. I emailed them and haven't gotten a response back yet.

One thing I did notice is that the 20 fuse for the 35w ddm tuning hit kid was a little bit melted on one side, almost as if it got heated up so damn hot one side started melting a little bit...it looked potentially hazardous

this is the exact 20A fuse the 35w ddm tuning kit used that was a little bit melted on one side of the connection:

 

hi beams= no fogs

 

the cheap hid kits tend to take a large amp draw when firing up. mine has never given me problems before a couple of days ago. when i fire up my low beams my ipod resets. its because one of my ballasts is a cheap one from ebay and not both ddm ballasts. i will replace it this weekend with a ddm one and see if it fixes the problem.

 

i had a similar problem before, ended up needing to switch the red and black wires that plug into the oem connectors. but sounds like you need professional help

 

And this. Unless you do the bypass.