Hmmm...for me it's not really the silent treatment. It's...give me my freakin space so we can both cool off. And the guys are ususally the ones to come talk to me...I'm fine with me time!

 

Man how are you able to walk around?


"Confucius say - Baseball Wrong, man with 4 ***** cannot walk."

 

exactly last thing i want to do is talk to a woman when she is mad
ill let her cool off

and i get quiet time

 

*shrug* It's wholly possible I guess being the closest planet to us.

But I like to think another solar system or galaxy all together. =P

(I got the reference btw )

 

Wow. I go to lunch with my housemate and this thread blows up. Sigma, PenguinPrincess, I appreciate the advice/comments. I'll have to take a look at them later though. Sooooo tired.

 

Breaking down the lines of communication is the surest route to failure.

However, if both partners are not involved in the conflict resolution process 100% - it will undoubtedly lead to worse conditions than before the argument.

 

i am 100%








after they cool down

i dont want the blind rage part

 

That's just what I mean though - there should be no raging. If there is a misalignment of ideals/view points (which, there always will be), the idea is to calmly approach the matter - sort out feelings from both partners and decide upon a compromised goal/route.

If it GETS to the point of rage/argument/yelling/fighting - this relationship is not long for this world.

 

True, hence why I said can rather than will as it is entirely possible see an attractive person that you are actually not attracted to. I'd be really curious to meet someone that is actually in some type of relationship where 1 person is actually not in any way physically attracted to their partner.

 

I hear ya, trust and communication are key factors in a successful relationship. But when people, men especially (but not only), get mad, their mind kinda clouds and they can't think straight. So there's the breathing time, time to cool down, think about what happened and go over it again...after you get your head on straight, it's easier to talk.

 

So it goes to Venus!! Hmmm...thats my planet...we'll send it to Jupiter.

 

show me one relationship that hasnt had an argument thats been over a year

 

Anger does cut down on logical thought yes, but honestly - people who get angry over little things (ie. cheating would not be a 'little' thing), and take it out by yelling at their partner or what have you; I would argue they are not ready for a serious mature relationship.

Getting mad just puts a wedge between you and your partner; you should be happy with them; but undoubtedly they will do something that irks you - key is to keep your cool, address the situation and approach them with smile and kiss - not with a furrowed brow and clenched fist.

 

Seriously...no joke...for me personality really seems to change the way someone looks physically. If they're really nice and super sweet, they somehow become more physically attractive to me. It goes the other way around too.

 

I know, don't worry. They're my friends, so it's for pure entertainment

Who said anything about being slick or hiding?
Humor me, how would you know if a guy wants to date (or is very attracted to) you? Do you telepathically invade his mind and hear his thoughts? Or do you read and make assumptions based on his actions?

This is where I'm getting at - if you're not confident that the feeling is mutual, slowly hint it through your actions that you are interested in her.

Like Penguin said, women are smart, so they'll immediately read it and get it in their heads. Sort of build it up a bit, and then make a way to get her alone and ask her out, in person.
I'm not saying to turn it into a month of mind games, but just enough time for her to think about it, and get possibly get excited to say yes or no.

Now, if you're sure the feeling is mutual, then I agree -- no point delaying.

......but like I said earlier, what do I know?

EDIT: I think this was originally for DO, or whoever it was that never dated yet........if it matters LOL