Teh we are moving the drama portion of teh bachelorette thread over here thread
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Originally Posted by subaru3169
if lifeplaza or ubermaus want anything explained for what i have said that might have insulted you guys, i'd be glad to.. i think some of my past posts were made jokingly and were meant to be taken light-heartedly.. i didn't mean for the confusion
Originally Posted by BLITZSTI
^^^ you have pm capability.
use it and stop tainting this thread. this thread isnt about you.
kthnxbye
use it and stop tainting this thread. this thread isnt about you.
kthnxbye
I did get these emails...
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Since I'm "lifeplaza" and I'm so "nasioc" style.
I think there is a difference between being confident and being arrogant.
I think between the regular members, we sometimes sound like we bashing each other.
But what was posted was way beyond being confident.
I'm very thankful that Lifeplaza is giving this opportunity to fellow i-club members to make a new friends. Whether anything that will happen beyond just making a "friend", that is another story. I don't understand why some of you think that this is anything beyond that.
If you have that type of thinking, you don't even deserve to be friends with us or dabachlorette.
Everyone has their own opinons and questions they like to express, but sometimes its not your place to give those opinions and people have to learn those limits.
I think between the regular members, we sometimes sound like we bashing each other.
But what was posted was way beyond being confident.
I'm very thankful that Lifeplaza is giving this opportunity to fellow i-club members to make a new friends. Whether anything that will happen beyond just making a "friend", that is another story. I don't understand why some of you think that this is anything beyond that.
If you have that type of thinking, you don't even deserve to be friends with us or dabachlorette.
Everyone has their own opinons and questions they like to express, but sometimes its not your place to give those opinions and people have to learn those limits.
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Originally Posted by subaru3169
<just to be clear why i say the things i say, i'm a psy major and i take a lot of phl classes, so i'm not an ideal person you'd want to take up an argument with>
I mentioned in my last post that you certainly do have valid and legitimate questions. Just try to ask them a little better. I know your probably the blunt type, but not every instrument carries the same tunes. Pick your place to be blunt. Especially if don't know this person. For you to go to someone and just straight out say. "Hey you seem like high maintenence" (which obviously was taken negetivly by our bachelorette) it's a bit of a slap in the face don't you think?
Sure everyone is intitled to their opinion, but to speak out in such a manner does not help label you a gentlemen. And cetainly does not earn you brownie points, in fact, you might end up owing brownie points rather than earning them...
You comment about being confident, kudos to you for being able to point out that you are confident (No sarcasm here, im really giving you props..see, sugar coat, it's easy) because a large % of guys cannot say the same. But there is a difference between confident and cocky, and that is how you came off. Which in turn (just like you made assumptions) makes people think that you feel you are better than most. This is probably what Lifeplaza meant by kicking people under the bus, and what I mean by you sound like you are gods gift to her (again, i'm sure this wasn't what you meant, but its how it came off due to the lack of proper communication in your posts).
In response to your comment about everyone analyzes. Yes, I know this, that is why I posted that this thread was a "Filtering" process for our bachelorette to filter out all posers, and losers.. Friends can be posers, and losers just as much as a dead beat/boring "bf" (oops..did I say that
jk). It has been mentioned to death in this thread (even came from her own posts) that she isn't looking for anything really serious, just a person, or people in general to hang out with. All in hopes of making long lasting, and meaningful friendships. If it happens to move past that, so be it. However, you come here and immdiatley point the finger and say "Nope, I think you just want to replace your boyfriend." I must admit, yes, it might happen... That is just life, but who said that was her only motive? How do you know that, after meeting everyone involved in this, that she will end up seeing another side to her current relationship, and feel totally content. Maybe this is what she needs to see whats out there so that she can get some piece of mind that she currently has the best that life has to offer.
The questions about her being intimate with her current situation is really none of anyones business.. Is her being intimate or the possibility of being intamite with someone (be it her bf, you, george bush, or howdy doody) that important?
All in all, my whole point is, you walked into a room of people you don't know and just started telling everyone "Fack you!!" and rubbed some people the wrong way. However, had you been more professional in the way your thoughts, comments were delivered, it would have been received in a much more tasteful way.
Last edited by UberMaus; Apr 28, 2006 at 03:07 PM.
Originally Posted by Ichinobu
What happened!!
I stepped away for a few minutes and it went from Love Connection to Jerry Springer!
Will someone please change the channel back to Love Connection!!!!!
One
I stepped away for a few minutes and it went from Love Connection to Jerry Springer!
Will someone please change the channel back to Love Connection!!!!!
One
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Originally Posted by Ichinobu
What happened!!
I stepped away for a few minutes and it went from Love Connection to Jerry Springer!
Will someone please change the channel back to Love Connection!!!!!
One
I stepped away for a few minutes and it went from Love Connection to Jerry Springer!
Will someone please change the channel back to Love Connection!!!!!
One
This is what happens when we are left unsupervised!!!! See what you did!!
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Originally Posted by UberMaus
Here is one instance that can be taken out the wrong way (because it is the internet, and "Tone" is a bit off) I understood what you meant by the post above. However, a lot of people might not see it that way. Some might think, "ok, so your super edumacated in teh world of how a person mind works.. So I shouldn't argue with you. So what, are you saying that my level is more along the lines of arguing who can scribble in between the lines better?" Is that more ideal for me?
I mentioned in my last post that you certainly do have valid and legitimate questions. Just try to ask them a little better. I know your probably the blunt type, but not every instrument carries the same tunes. Pick your place to be blunt. Especially if don't know this person. For you to go to someone and just straight out say. "Hey you seem like high maintenence" (which obviously was taken negetivly by our bachelorette) it's a bit of a slap in the face don't you think?
Sure everyone is intitled to their opinion, but to speak out in such a manner does not help label you a gentlemen. And cetainly does not earn you brownie points, in fact, you might end up owing brownie points rather than earning them...
You comment about being confident, kudos to you for being able to point out that you are confident (No sarcasm here, im really giving you props..see, sugar coat, it's easy) because a large % of guys cannot say the same. But there is a difference between confident and cocky, and that is how you came off. Which in turn (just like you made assumptions) makes people think that you feel you are better than most. This is probably what Lifeplaza meant by kicking people under the bus, and what I mean by you sound like you are gods gift to her (again, i'm sure this wasn't what you meant, but its how it came off due to the lack of proper communication in your posts).
In response to your comment about everyone analyzes. Yes, I know this, that is why I posted that this thread was a "Filtering" process for our bachelorette to filter out all posers, and losers.. Friends can be posers, and losers just as much as a dead beat/boring "bf" (oops..did I say that jk). It has been mentioned to death in this thread (even came from her own posts) that she isn't looking for anything really serious, just a person, or people in general to hang out with. All in hopes of making long lasting, and meaningful friendships. If it happens to move past that, so be it. However, you come here and immdiatley point the finger and say "Nope, I think you just want to replace your boyfriend."
I must admit, yes, it might happen... That is just life, but who said that was her only motive? How do you know that, after meeting everyone involved in this, that she will end up seeing another side to her current relationship, and feel totally content. Maybe this is what she needs to see whats out there so that she can get some piece of mind that she currently has the best that life has to offer.
The questions about her being intimate with her current situation is really none of anyones business.. Is her being intimate or the possibility of being intamite with someone (be it her bf, you, george bush, or howdy doody) that important?
All in all, my whole point is, you walked into a room of people you don't know and just started telling everyone "Fack you!!" and rubbed some people the wrong way. However, had you been more professional in the way your thoughts, comments were delivered, it would have been received in a much more tasteful way.
I mentioned in my last post that you certainly do have valid and legitimate questions. Just try to ask them a little better. I know your probably the blunt type, but not every instrument carries the same tunes. Pick your place to be blunt. Especially if don't know this person. For you to go to someone and just straight out say. "Hey you seem like high maintenence" (which obviously was taken negetivly by our bachelorette) it's a bit of a slap in the face don't you think?
Sure everyone is intitled to their opinion, but to speak out in such a manner does not help label you a gentlemen. And cetainly does not earn you brownie points, in fact, you might end up owing brownie points rather than earning them...
You comment about being confident, kudos to you for being able to point out that you are confident (No sarcasm here, im really giving you props..see, sugar coat, it's easy) because a large % of guys cannot say the same. But there is a difference between confident and cocky, and that is how you came off. Which in turn (just like you made assumptions) makes people think that you feel you are better than most. This is probably what Lifeplaza meant by kicking people under the bus, and what I mean by you sound like you are gods gift to her (again, i'm sure this wasn't what you meant, but its how it came off due to the lack of proper communication in your posts).
In response to your comment about everyone analyzes. Yes, I know this, that is why I posted that this thread was a "Filtering" process for our bachelorette to filter out all posers, and losers.. Friends can be posers, and losers just as much as a dead beat/boring "bf" (oops..did I say that
jk). It has been mentioned to death in this thread (even came from her own posts) that she isn't looking for anything really serious, just a person, or people in general to hang out with. All in hopes of making long lasting, and meaningful friendships. If it happens to move past that, so be it. However, you come here and immdiatley point the finger and say "Nope, I think you just want to replace your boyfriend." I must admit, yes, it might happen... That is just life, but who said that was her only motive? How do you know that, after meeting everyone involved in this, that she will end up seeing another side to her current relationship, and feel totally content. Maybe this is what she needs to see whats out there so that she can get some piece of mind that she currently has the best that life has to offer.
The questions about her being intimate with her current situation is really none of anyones business.. Is her being intimate or the possibility of being intamite with someone (be it her bf, you, george bush, or howdy doody) that important?
All in all, my whole point is, you walked into a room of people you don't know and just started telling everyone "Fack you!!" and rubbed some people the wrong way. However, had you been more professional in the way your thoughts, comments were delivered, it would have been received in a much more tasteful way.
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Originally Posted by subaru3169
ok i see what you mean now.. that posted you mentioned of me wasn't meant to come off like that.. and perhaps the way i asked my questions weren't phrased that well either.. in any case i never flat out said this is that and whatnot.. all my commments were stated along the lines of "it is possible/probable" in the event to try to avoid someone blaming me for something<obviously it didn't turn out as it should have>.. unlike lifeplaza, at least i can understand what went wrong and apologize for my part.. so in all fairness i'd like to say sorry.. didn't meant to rub people the wrong way.. btw i do agree with you on the possible alternatives of her motives<or however you put it>.. that was exactly my whole point, there are several possibilities, i just made a guess.. if i was wrong, i was wrong.. i'm not afraid to admit it.. anyway glad to have your feedback, it's appreciated and respected
We you return you to our regularly scheduled programming....
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Originally Posted by subaru3169
ok i see what you mean now.. that posted you mentioned of me wasn't meant to come off like that.. and perhaps the way i asked my questions weren't phrased that well either.. in any case i never flat out said this is that and whatnot.. all my commments were stated along the lines of "it is possible/probable" in the event to try to avoid someone blaming me for something<obviously it didn't turn out as it should have>.. unlike lifeplaza, at least i can understand what went wrong and apologize for my part.. so in all fairness i'd like to say sorry.. didn't meant to rub people the wrong way.. btw i do agree with you on the possible alternatives of her motives<or however you put it>.. that was exactly my whole point, there are several possibilities, i just made a guess.. if i was wrong, i was wrong.. i'm not afraid to admit it.. anyway glad to have your feedback, it's appreciated and respected
you say you are sorry, but you immediately turn and direct your hate towards lifeplaza. thats a low down dirty thing to do.
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Originally Posted by BLITZSTI
if i say that its possble/probable that you are an *******, am i not still saying you are an *******? I'm just saying, according to your methodology.
you say you are sorry, but you immediately turn and direct your hate towards lifeplaza. thats a low down dirty thing to do.
you say you are sorry, but you immediately turn and direct your hate towards lifeplaza. thats a low down dirty thing to do.
Originally Posted by Ichinobu
Jerry Springer
Now
Dr. Phil
I want Love Connection!!!!!
One
Now
Dr. Phil
I want Love Connection!!!!!
One
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