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Okay, okay, I know to some of you "wifey" is a bad word. I agree but you see i couldn't use the other 5 letter word that starts with a b. which i know you all probably think all wives are. (because they are) Anyway... My name is Maria, Mario's wife. (crazy huh?) Let me start by saying Mario's not going to like this. I am not here to bust his ***** i am here to be corrected or to just prove a very serious point. Okay. How many of you who are married would send your wife to uncharted territory(your family) without meeting but only one of them? Well he has done so in this case and now i am suffering the in-law-fever. Mario has chosen not to speak to me for 1 or 2 weeks at a time with no way to contact him no email response and i am left here to deal with people i really don't know. The only thing in common that we have is Mario. Trust me it is very hard. I am now taking Zoloft, you may have heard of it, it is an anti-depressant, and i am still depresses. Mario seems to be making things happen with his car but not not even attempting to do anything with his family. Now he sold an XBOX and 15 games for $300! That was for his car. That is rediculous! He wouldn't have even thought of doing that for me. Now i understand you all are in love with your cars but there comes a point where you have to come to reality. I really feel that i am not good enough for Mario because i am not a car ***** or i don't know much about cars. But i am REAL. When those girls take off their make-up they are FUGLY! I had a brief phone conversation with Mario last night and he was explaining all the things he was trying to get fo his car, all the things he was thinking of selling to get stuff for his car. Now my question is... Is there something wrong with me that i am not seeing? Am I a b*@#h for feeling neglecting and wanting to move on with MY life? Seriously?! 
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To each his own. Thats it. It would make a difference if you had alot of emotional investment in this relationship but there alot of people out there. Don't feel guilty for wanting to move on(if that is what your getting at). Just keep in mind that certain sacrifices need to be made. From the sound of things HE should be making the sacrifices. I hope you have talked with him about this by now.
As for that pill problem of yours, anti-depressants are the worst thing for depression. They are the most addictive drug ever created and do nothing but make your head cloudy so you forget your problems. Regular exercise WILL cure depression, I guarentee it.
You don't need a pill to make you happy, just better life management.
(Dr. Laura aint ****)
As for that pill problem of yours, anti-depressants are the worst thing for depression. They are the most addictive drug ever created and do nothing but make your head cloudy so you forget your problems. Regular exercise WILL cure depression, I guarentee it.
You don't need a pill to make you happy, just better life management.
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well, as for all the "car models", ... you're right, they are fake and fugly. 
They only look good b/c of the cars! 
I don't know about the rest of the things you mentioned, I don't think many people know you where even gone. It would've been cool if you had come out to events and little parties we've had so you could meet everyone else's significant others.
Try not to worry about the whole money thing and the car. It's not that you aren't important at all, ... some people just get more involved with their cars (or Any hobby) than others. Unfortunately, it's not a cheap hobby.
Regardless of either of your standpoints, marriage is based on friendship, love, trust, communication, and compromise (Of course there's a lot more to it than that).
They only look good b/c of the cars! I don't know about the rest of the things you mentioned, I don't think many people know you where even gone. It would've been cool if you had come out to events and little parties we've had so you could meet everyone else's significant others.
Try not to worry about the whole money thing and the car. It's not that you aren't important at all, ... some people just get more involved with their cars (or Any hobby) than others. Unfortunately, it's not a cheap hobby.
Regardless of either of your standpoints, marriage is based on friendship, love, trust, communication, and compromise (Of course there's a lot more to it than that).
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I am addicted to cars. Owning/driving/modifying them, you name it. My friend (Jimmy) has deemed this terrible disease: Obsessive Automotive Modification Disorder.
I'm only half joking.
I would be a lot better off if I could kick this stupid money pit hobby - but I can't. It's a lifestyle. What do you do? I'm simply "A car guy".
Once you're bitten by the bug - there's no turning back.
P.S. This is in no way a commentary on your situation, nor is it an excuse, etc. I was only reminded by your post of MY OWN PERSONAL situation. I'd have ducats in the bank, and a house by now if I hadn't dropped so much mad money on my cars over the last 15 years!
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I'm only half joking.
I would be a lot better off if I could kick this stupid money pit hobby - but I can't. It's a lifestyle. What do you do? I'm simply "A car guy".
Once you're bitten by the bug - there's no turning back.
P.S. This is in no way a commentary on your situation, nor is it an excuse, etc. I was only reminded by your post of MY OWN PERSONAL situation. I'd have ducats in the bank, and a house by now if I hadn't dropped so much mad money on my cars over the last 15 years!
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I'm bitten,
my wife told me not to come home Friday night when she saw the stuff I bought for my car. She got me back Saturday by buying a diamond worth a gazillion bucks. I will be out at the track for every open track day. I will be dead or deployed if I'm not, or maybe something very serious would deter me. As for the pills, I don't think they work. I hope you two can come to some sort of compromise.
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For many, work is the bane of ther existence. Few people are fortunate enough to have a career doing something they love. I can think of many other things I'd rather be doing, but my financial obligations to my wife and son keep me punching that same clock. My wife understands this and has learned to accept the car addiction. Of course she'll never fully understand or agree with spending hundreds in the pursuit of knocking off a few tenths of a second in the 1/4 mile, but she does see my passion and respects it. She knows that seeing that car in the garage makes the daily grind that much easier to deal with.
Like Richard said, I can only speak for myself. The car addiction notwithstanding, we still try and maintain a heathy balance between family and car stuff - in that order.
Like Richard said, I can only speak for myself. The car addiction notwithstanding, we still try and maintain a heathy balance between family and car stuff - in that order.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, Maria... but it helps me to look at mine & remember to take care of my wife. She feels the same alotta times, too... but gives me a warning when i start to go overboard with the car.. then i switch the attention to her. We all need a hobby/passion, tho...
I agree with the exercise & helping to raise ur mood... gotta get that endorphin release.. although i've never got that runner's high (becuz i hate running)... but try something physically constructive ?
Sorry to also hear about the in-laws.. i hope things have gotten better since u wrote it.. or u were able to put it in a better place in your mind.. Good Luck... and hope u find some silver lining...
I agree with the exercise & helping to raise ur mood... gotta get that endorphin release.. although i've never got that runner's high (becuz i hate running)... but try something physically constructive ?
Sorry to also hear about the in-laws.. i hope things have gotten better since u wrote it.. or u were able to put it in a better place in your mind.. Good Luck... and hope u find some silver lining...
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Re: seriously(a family issue)
Originally posted by wifey
Okay, okay, I know to some of you "wifey" is a bad word. I agree but you see i couldn't use the other 5 letter word that starts with a b. which i know you all probably think all wives are. (because they are) Anyway... My name is Maria, Mario's wife. (crazy huh?) Let me start by saying Mario's not going to like this. I am not here to bust his ***** i am here to be corrected or to just prove a very serious point. Okay. How many of you who are married would send your wife to uncharted territory(your family) without meeting but only one of them? Well he has done so in this case and now i am suffering the in-law-fever. Mario has chosen not to speak to me for 1 or 2 weeks at a time with no way to contact him no email response and i am left here to deal with people i really don't know. The only thing in common that we have is Mario. Trust me it is very hard. I am now taking Zoloft, you may have heard of it, it is an anti-depressant, and i am still depresses. Mario seems to be making things happen with his car but not not even attempting to do anything with his family. Now he sold an XBOX and 15 games for $300! That was for his car. That is rediculous! He wouldn't have even thought of doing that for me. Now i understand you all are in love with your cars but there comes a point where you have to come to reality. I really feel that i am not good enough for Mario because i am not a car ***** or i don't know much about cars. But i am REAL. When those girls take off their make-up they are FUGLY! I had a brief phone conversation with Mario last night and he was explaining all the things he was trying to get fo his car, all the things he was thinking of selling to get stuff for his car. Now my question is... Is there something wrong with me that i am not seeing? Am I a b*@#h for feeling neglecting and wanting to move on with MY life? Seriously?!
Okay, okay, I know to some of you "wifey" is a bad word. I agree but you see i couldn't use the other 5 letter word that starts with a b. which i know you all probably think all wives are. (because they are) Anyway... My name is Maria, Mario's wife. (crazy huh?) Let me start by saying Mario's not going to like this. I am not here to bust his ***** i am here to be corrected or to just prove a very serious point. Okay. How many of you who are married would send your wife to uncharted territory(your family) without meeting but only one of them? Well he has done so in this case and now i am suffering the in-law-fever. Mario has chosen not to speak to me for 1 or 2 weeks at a time with no way to contact him no email response and i am left here to deal with people i really don't know. The only thing in common that we have is Mario. Trust me it is very hard. I am now taking Zoloft, you may have heard of it, it is an anti-depressant, and i am still depresses. Mario seems to be making things happen with his car but not not even attempting to do anything with his family. Now he sold an XBOX and 15 games for $300! That was for his car. That is rediculous! He wouldn't have even thought of doing that for me. Now i understand you all are in love with your cars but there comes a point where you have to come to reality. I really feel that i am not good enough for Mario because i am not a car ***** or i don't know much about cars. But i am REAL. When those girls take off their make-up they are FUGLY! I had a brief phone conversation with Mario last night and he was explaining all the things he was trying to get fo his car, all the things he was thinking of selling to get stuff for his car. Now my question is... Is there something wrong with me that i am not seeing? Am I a b*@#h for feeling neglecting and wanting to move on with MY life? Seriously?!
I could have sworn you said in that one thread "things you didn't know about me" THAT IM GETTING A DEVORCE. Well what happened ?? Anything that i am selling is stuff that just sits here and collects dust, Know one is gonna use it and the stuff im trying so hard to buy for my car is stuff it needs. I told you i destroyed a tire at the last track day!!!! WTF is your problem?? Well once again all i apoligize to all for having to here my wife BS.
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i agree ^^.. its the holidays 
isn't it the best time of the year? .. just saying.. .. but just want to wish the best to both of you guys and that things will head towards the better..
isn't it the best time of the year? .. just saying.. .. but just want to wish the best to both of you guys and that things will head towards the better..
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Originally posted by Rexstang
I love my car and my hobby, but ask anyone who knows me and my wife, she will always be the #1 priority. Why? Family above all else.
I love my car and my hobby, but ask anyone who knows me and my wife, she will always be the #1 priority. Why? Family above all else.
My car goes before my family does.
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i appreciate all the input and once again i said i wasn't posting to bust his ***** i just wanted some clarifacation and hopefully some words other than my own will help in this situation. I am sorry to burden you all it was just one of those moments when you have to just let it all out and the person you should talk to doesn't care. If he did i wouldn't be here. Anyway yeah again i am sorry and yeah happy holidays.