What do you regret?
04-18-2014, 05:25 PM
#46
Agreed 
I know Ray didn't mean me specifically, but he included me by defualt with his statement and I felt strongly enough to rebuttle and use myself as an example.
As I said, may be it is just semantics, but I find "making a lot of mistake" and "making a lot of regrets" as completely different mentalities. Devil is in the details as it is the little things that kill you.
I know Ray didn't mean me specifically, but he included me by defualt with his statement and I felt strongly enough to rebuttle and use myself as an example. As I said, may be it is just semantics, but I find "making a lot of mistake" and "making a lot of regrets" as completely different mentalities. Devil is in the details as it is the little things that kill you.
Definition of regret:
re·gret [ri-gret] Show IPA
verb (used with object), re·gret·ted, re·gret·ting.
1. to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc.)
2. to think of with a sense of loss
3. a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction, etc.
4. a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.
5. regrets, a polite, usually formal refusal of an invitation
6. a note expressing regret at one's inability to accept an invitation
04-18-2014, 05:39 PM
#49
Laugh was not literal. I don't sit around going... LOL... oh man that dude hasn't done **** in his life. Why? Because that's insanely stupid.
In reality my opinion is that if you don't feel regret you're either a sociopath or someone that hasn't had to make tough choices and suffer the consequences. That's my opinion. Just like you think would/could/should is a waste of energy. I actually agree. It's pointless. It's fun to talk about in conversation but if it controls any part of your life it's a waste.
I'm not talking about dwelling and I'm not talking about woulda coulda.
Hindsight is always 20/20 and every person makes choices that are imperfect. IMHO Learning and moving on to greater things is what counts more. This might seem like semantics…but my state of mind will not allow me to say “Maaan, I regret crashing my WRX, I wish I still had it ‘cause it was such a sweeeeeat car.” Regretting the past accomplishes nothing because that happened for a reason and I simply got what was coming to me. Instead I say that I f*cked up and set a new goal to increase my driving skill and build better balanced cars as to avoid repeating the past.
i.e. Drunk wrecks his car. Says... that sucks. Moves on. No regret. No remorse for wrong doing. No realization that they did something wrong. 2 years later they wreck again... only this time they kill someone.
Now had that person said... man... that was stupid. I'm really sorry I did that. That was a terrible mistake. The feel the regret. Deal with it. Learn. Move on. Next time they get drunk they call a taxi.
And life haven't lived? That’s a crappy assumption, dude. I guess then having lived on multiple continents, graduating with a double bachelors at the top on my class, working my way to comfortable financial standing, visiting or worked in every state in this country, and supporting my parents 100% in their old edge (along many other things) do not count as "haven't lived yet" in your book.
Can’t we just agree that everyone has a different life philosophy that makes them sleep at night?
Can’t we just agree that everyone has a different life philosophy that makes them sleep at night?
Now what if those opportunities were put in front of you and you made the wrong choices. Didn't do those things. Got to a point and looked back and went... damn I ****ed up. That's regret. At the end of your life that regret is kind of pointless. But say you're 25 and you realize... man I ****ed up. Feel the regret... start making different decisions. Feel the regret when you're 25... hell of a lot better than when you're 75 and alone.
We can agree to have a different definitely of regret.
I suppose I should know better than to go deeper than the surface on i-club. I guess I should have said....
No regrets... YOLO!
04-18-2014, 05:54 PM
#50
Sometimes people need regret in order to grow in the right direction. Think of regrets like wrenching; if you don't break something, how do you expect to learn from it? You can't let your cup be too full or be too sure of yourself and your decisions all the time. I believe it keeps a person humble and always learning to be open to a little doubt and a little regret now and then. Should one dwell on whats done and mull over and over how things could have been different? I wouldn't advise it. But remembering that you f***ed up that one time will certainly grant you the foresight not to do it again.
That's basically where I'm coming from.
I mean no disrespect to Lex. He's clearly done well for himself and has some solid family values.
It's just my definition of regret is a big more extreme I guess.
04-18-2014, 06:06 PM
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You getting upset and defensive is a bigger waste of energy than feeling regret, evaluating, learning and moving on.
Definition of regret:
re·gret [ri-gret] Show IPA
verb (used with object), re·gret·ted, re·gret·ting.
1. to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc.)
2. to think of with a sense of loss
3. a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction, etc.
4. a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.
5. regrets, a polite, usually formal refusal of an invitation
6. a note expressing regret at one's inability to accept an invitation
Definition of regret:
re·gret [ri-gret] Show IPA
verb (used with object), re·gret·ted, re·gret·ting.
1. to feel sorrow or remorse for (an act, fault, disappointment, etc.)
2. to think of with a sense of loss
3. a sense of loss, disappointment, dissatisfaction, etc.
4. a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.
5. regrets, a polite, usually formal refusal of an invitation
6. a note expressing regret at one's inability to accept an invitation
And feeling strongly about an issue doesn't automatically make me upset. I also wasn't the one that laughed/ripped into a different point of view...Anyhow, like I said, whatever makes people sleep at night 
04-19-2014, 10:22 AM
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Anyway, I see both you guys saying a very similar thing, from a different perspective, each of which took real work and dramatic events to achieve. One of you has a more efficient methodology of classifying events and the reasoning for such, while the other prefers to spend some time analyzing the events, but you both come to the same conclusions.
Both of you have "been through some stuff" that has helped create who you are today. These events are deeply personal but may not be specifically meaningful to each-other beyond the concept of empathy. You guys should have a beer. Maybe you can create a new drink altogether (e.g., Moscow Car Bomb: glass of crappy vodka with shot of Baltika dropped in)
04-19-2014, 10:55 AM
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Not being smart enough to know that girls liked me in high school. I could have plowed some seriously fertile ground and I not been so oblivious.
Buying a house in 2005.
Buying a house in 2005.
04-19-2014, 11:32 AM
#55
Buying the Forester, sight unseen. I've been fortunate that I've had the resources and knowledge to make the best of a bad situation, but DAMN. This car was a wreck when I got it and I paid $18k for it. Thats a tough pill to swallow, only to be stuck making such costly repairs to a four year old car.
