I don't know why I'm asking OT about this - probably because after sifting through all the crap you guys post there might actually be some meaningful advice. But most of you are (maybe) older and (maybe) wiser so here it goes...

My girlfriend and I have probably a 99% chance of getting married. I can't see myself being with anybody else, and she can't see herself being with anybody else. It's going to happen so the "never get married" comments can stop now. :D

She picked out a ring that she really likes and I really like the price. There's a little "deal" on it towards the end of this month. My friend just told me (a few minutes ago) that he has a ring that he was going to give his girl before, well, yeah.

Anyway, his price is less than half of the one my g/f and I both like. SO my question is basically "To be, or not to be... a cheapskate?" The ring my friend has never left the box and is still brand new, but would that be bad?

Thanks for your answers, even if you are smart-asses about it! :D

Dewey

P.S. thanks to those who actually read all the above crap, too! :)

get her what she wants...unless your friends ring looks decent then why not actually suprise her with it especially if has a bigger diamond on it. :)

yeah, go with what you've already picked out. unless like was mentioned above, the other ring is somewhat nicer looking, and has some ungodly huge rock in it.

-PJ

I'm not going to say i'm older or wiser but I will say if your going to be with her "forever" then make sure you get her what she wants.

Your not going to live with your friend forever, or have kids with him. (I hope) So I would get her the one she wanted and get a decent rock on it.

Also the last thing you want on your mind is the fact the ring she's wearing was for your buddy's ex-girl.

Get the right Ring ... because she'll have to.:D

Originally posted by BongMan
I'm not going to say i'm older or wiser but I will say if your going to be with her "forever" then make sure you get her what she wants.



Amen. otherwise you'll always regret getting her something that is second best.

Trust me get her the one she wants. The amount you pay will be meaningless down the road the ring however will only gain in meaning. I've been married 13 years and she still loves her ring.

A word of advise, get the ring appraised and insured before you give it to her. Not where you get it either. When you look for a place to get it appraised, do not go to a place that can't do it on site and has to send it out or for that matter even take the ring out of your site. It may be harder to find or you may have to come back when the "gemologist" is around but it's the best thing to do. A reputable place will understand. You don't want them to pull the old switcharoo and you end up w/ a CZ stone in there. The guy I went to didn't even have the ring in his hand and turn his back on me. I could always see the ring. He did it for his protection as well as mine because he didn't want to be accused of doing a switch either. He later explained how to have it properly done and all - nice guy.

One last thing, its not so much the size of the rock as the quality. I ended up getting the stone before the setting. Although it's not only 1 ct. it looks much bigger and brighter than larger stones. It's a VV S1 / G round cut (round sparkles the best because it catches the most light), very pretty, they really do look like ice when you see them on the velvet. When compared to larger stones of lesser quality (they are gonna compare trust me) it really stands out.

Good luck and congrats :) - Getting married one of the best things I've ever done....


Peaty